The next step in our collective evolution: Inviting the Divine Masculine.

Preface:

Just to be clear before I launch: when I talk about “masculine” and “feminine”, it actually isn’t gender specific. All humans have both sides within them, and there are many men out there who embody the divine feminine beautifully and women who live in the adolescent male consciousness.

It also has nothing to do with age – I have met children and adolescents with mature consciousness and adults who live in the adolescent state.

Why is this important?

It is my observation that how we, as a human community, treat women is an exact reflection of how we treat our Earth. As you are no doubt aware, our Earth isn’t doing so well on account of how we have treated her and all the Life she nurtures in the years up until now. The world is crying out for a more balanced approach by humans, for humans and for the Earth.

The story till now:

The world we live in is currently dominated by unrestrained adolescent male ego consciousness and has been for centuries, if not milennia.

The hallmark of this type of consciousness is that everything revolves around “me” and “my”: my needs, desires, pleasures, wants etc.

This is the consciousness of getting what I want regardless of the price my body or someone else or something else has to pay; of doing something because I can and I want to regardless of consequences for the world; of exerting power for its own sake; of not being accountable because I have the upper hand.

It gives a sense of power and entitlement and is a state very disconnected from nature and community.

It is a state of dominance and of taking. It is a state of denying the unpleasant aspects of life – and will generally have a pill for every ill.

It is a state of “them and us”, of separation, so I can feel “better than” and get that ego boost. Power is exerted externally and en-forced.

It is also, ultimately, very lonely and very hollow. It is the state of being in constant fear: Of being superseded by someone else, of being found wanting, of not being loveable let alone loved.

I am sure that you can identify many so-called leaders, male and female, in politics and industry and media, who display these qualities openly.

In this state, feminine qualities and women are disparaged and discounted, as is our home in the Universe, Mother Earth.

The first step for change happened a couple of generations ago, women decided that they had had enough of being second class citizens, of having their creativity and ideas discounted just because they came from a woman, and they started embodying masculine traits in order to carve out a piece for themselves in a man’s world. Margaret Thatcher springs to mind. I doubt she would have made it to the top without being as tough as nails.

Personally I am deeply grateful to our mothers and grandmothers for walking this path, because they paved the way for what is to come next.

Thanks to these women, in our Western society it is now normal (although in some Western countries like Australia, still not overly common) to see women in positions of power and leadership.

The following step was to start embodying the qualities of the Divine Feminine. Amongst these feminine qualities are: deep connection to the heart, to the earth, vulnerability, inclusiveness, creativity community, gratitude, wisdom, discernment, compassion, receptivity, intuition, generosity and being of service to the greater all. The state of this consciousness is one of love and of inherent (as opposed to acquired) worth.

As you can see, many men embody these qualities wonderfully.

Women now are able to lead in a feminine way, which is generally to raise everyone up so everyone can be their best, a space of co-creating and everyone playing to their strengths, rather than imposing in a hierarchical top-down way. Jacinda Ardern springs to mind as I write this.

Embodying the Divine Feminine does require us to accept our darkness too, however. I used to feel somewhat offended that in the Chinese “yin/yang” sign, the feminine was symbolized by the colour black. But think about the beauty of deep, rich, cool, fertile, black loam and its potential for creating and growing and nurturing life. Think of going into a cool cave after having been out in the blinding sunlight. Think of how much more joy and gratitude you can embody after you have gone through the darkness of grief. Think of a beautiful night’s sleep or of a winter of deep rest and recuperation and creativity unfolding in the depths of our being-ness that can then be brought forward into the light. Think of the nurturing darkness in the womb as a new human being is in the process of being created.

It is a state of having a nurturing and reciprocal relationship with Mother Earth and also with our bodies. In this state, we respect our bodies’ their innate intelligence and understand that symptoms are our bodies’ way of communicating a need to us.

The more we can be comfortable with and/or accept the darkness that we all have in our natures, and the dark times we all have to go through by virtue of having a human being experience on planet Earth, the less we resist it, the more whole and complete and compassionate we can be as human beings.

It’s a lot like breathing: It only works if you breathe both in and out.

In this state, power is internal and intrinsic and does not need en-forcing, because the community is equitable and individuals valued for what unique gifts they each bring to the table and everyone’s needs are considered.

To me, it is very much a space of being-ness and of creativity.

One notable difference for women in those two states is that in the adolescent male consciousness, we resist our own femininity by stopping or trying to control our menstrual cycles and make birth a technological event, whereas when embodying the Divine Feminine we tend to celebrate our cycles and the different emotions and ways of being that they offer and make birth a spiritual and empowering and transcendent event.

Not all societies or humans are currently embodying this state (yes, I have been noted to formulate the odd understatement). And even so, it is time to take the next step:

Inviting the Divine Masculine into our beings and into our world.

And remember that both men and women have this aspect.

Amongst these masculine qualities are: deep connection to the heart and to the earth, vulnerability, inclusiveness, creativity, community, gratitude, wisdom, discernment, compassion, receptivity, intuition, generosity and being of service to the greater all. It is a state of love and inherent worth. Yes, they are exactly the same qualities as those I listed under the feminine traits. IAnd yet if you feel into them, you can probably tell that they have a slightly different flavour.

To me, the Divine Masculine springs from the being-ness of the feminine. The Masculine is the part that takes the creative ideas incubated in the darkness and brings them into the reality of the light. It is the doing-ness that flows from the being-ness – as opposed to doing-ness for its own sake, which is what we have been used to so far. The Divine Masculine protects the Divine Feminine, knowing that the two are dancing together in life, and that anything that destroys the Feminine ultimately is going to destroy the Masculine too. The doing-ness serves the greater purpose that the being-ness feels drawn to. The Divine Feminine offers boundaries and direction, passion and purpose to the Divine Masculine. The Divine Masculine holds space for the Divine Feminine, so that she can do her internal processing in safety and peace.

The Divine Masculine knows about giving and receiving rather than taking.

The Divine Masculine lives in reverence of Life.

Only if we embody both can the world be healed.

How do we get there? By feeling our hearts is the short and complete answer.

In one of his books, Neale Donald Walsh gives this guiding question we can ask our hearts before each decision, big or small, that we have to make:

What would love do?

Further recommended reading related to this topic:

This is a very insightful blog written by the remarkable Amanda Blennerhassett on how women ended up being unequal in the first place:

https://www.windowomen.org/post/so-er-how-exactly-did-women-become-unequal-anyway?fbclid=IwAR0veZk3pjwBiP5kZzq2qwanXURUNhoKweUZjfie66McXySS6mrG3iyVG_c

And this is a very insightful and inspiring article on how we can raise our sons to become the balanced men they so richly deserve to grow into:

https://madamenoire.com/1127221/if-you-want-to-protect-your-daughters-raise-better-sons/